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My entire 30-year career has been spent in the healthcare field. Rooted in western medicine. I grew up blindly trusting doctors and medical professionals. This represents my view on why parents seek alternate medical advice and “cures”.
A transformational observation
During my late teens, doctors said the best place for my great grandmother was a skilled nursing facility. I watched the staff place my great-grandmother at one of those U-shaped tables, alone and facing the wall to eat her meals. Oh, and I couldn’t dare sit with her, lest the state swoop in and issue a citation for breaking the nursing-home-dining-room-force-field (or so I’d been told). I learned that regulations, or more so how they were interpreted, defied common sense and basic human decency.
Doctor knows best
My first daughter was born, and it was hard. Not the kind of typical-new-parent hard, but the kind of hard that makes you think something is just wrong. 4 hours of pure screaming every time she ate. Not sleeping, EVER. Screaming and writhing with every diaper change. Speech that came and subsequently went. Pediatricians and specialists insistent the root cause was just ‘colic’ and she’d grow out of it. (Spoiler: She is now 12 and amazingly autistic) I felt like an over-reactive new mom.
Save your hate mail
I’m not looking for a vaccine debate here, and if you think that’s what I’m saying, you’ve missed my point.
I believe in the dangers of unvaccinated people. There’s an implication for public health: babies, schools, hospitals and nursing homes where exposure can be deadly. At the same time, I acknowledge there is a group of vaccine-injured that neither the government nor medicine seems to address.
Like many parents, I got sick and tired of the condescending pat on the head.
My point is that western medicine’s patronization of parents desperate for answers causes them to look elsewhere. To Jenny McCarthy for medical advice. She’s been vilified for her views (and I can’t say I’m a raving fan). But, if you really think about it, Jenny McCarthy is a mom. Using her platform to acknowledge moms cast aside as “over-reactive” by pediatricians everywhere. Maybe, as mom, she’s no different than me -someone sick and tired of condescending doctors who offer no solutions.
Paternalism built the lunatic fringe
Getting medical advice from non-medical people can be dangerous and can bring out the lunatic fringe. There’s a group, for example, who prescribes bleach as an autism cure. But I would argue that the medical community’s inability and unwillingness to acknowledge parents in a meaningful way for too many years indirectly caused this. Indeed, caused parents to take SOME action, seek acknowledgement, and answers. To equate science with conspiracy. Medical paternalism is the same as inaction, and therefore, causes reaction.
Doctor’s way or the highway
Western medicine’s unwillingness to acknowledge natural supports like diet, the importance of sleep, or Naturopathy for so long has created “supplement syndrome” including modern day snake oil salesman who claim to have the latest not-FDA-approved-cure. Consequently, this leaves parents to sort through the good, the bad and the flat-out dangerous.
Medical doctors told me that a gluten and dairy free diet will give my daughter scurvy. Vision therapy is a waste of time. At age 3, doctors asserted she’d always be learning disabled no matter what I did, so she didn’t need early intervention. This sage advice came less than 10 year ago, not in the dark ages.
Medical research needs to prioritize and legitimize natural supports, so they can be the voice of what is helpful, proven and safe. They need to support and acknowledge parents with solutions.
Why I do what I do
My blog highlights parent-tested interventions that work side-by-side with medicine. Helping parents understand the pros and cons. To steer them clear of bleach-based solutions. I want to give parents the confidence to talk to their medical doctors about supports that will help every child live their very best life.